Speak up. Say it. Just be honest. It's not as hard as it seems. And it gets a little easier the more you practice it. Be straightforward and people will come to respect you for it. Avoiding conflict is only helpful if you can let it go. Harboring hate or hurt leads to conflict eventually anyway and by then it's all built up! 💣😱
Conflict is inevitable because everyone has their own truth & perception & outside influences that WILL clash with someone else's at some point. But getting everything out on the table at least opens you up to forgiveness, grace, peace and the possibility of reconciliation which are a necessity in any real relationship. 💯💙
It's easy to be blinded by your pain but since everyone will hurt you, let you down, disappoint you, get mad at you, be irritated with you, do things you wish they wouldn't, mistreat you, not meet your expectations in some way, exclude you, or take you for granted at some point you might as well learn to resolve issues, forgive and love the people God gives you. Otherwise your options are to live bitterly, shallowly, or alone. Ick.
You can only do so much, I know, but at least you can know you tried. And you can learn..and grow from it.
God gives you the people you need and even the most difficult people are there for a reason. Guard your heart - watch it, scan it, know the condition of it- not cage it off but ask God to heal it, renew it. When your heart is not in a good place it taints everything you say & do. We can't keep our joy in that state and that's exactly where Satan wants to keep us.
Awareness helps us to fully embrace life. Be authentic. Remember what really matters. Look for the bigger picture. Get some perspective from a truthful person you trust. And always pray.

“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭51:10‬ ‭ESV‬‬
http://bible.com/59/psa.51.10.esv

“Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts!”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139:23‬ ‭ESV‬‬
http://bible.com/59/psa.139.23.esv

“Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭4:23‬ ‭ESV‬‬
http://bible.com/59/pro.4.23.esv