What to do when you find yourself backed into a corner..
When a friend confirms to us that the world is as we see it, we feel safer, reassured. We are in harmony. Our level of insecurity determines how much danger we sense when a falling out occurs. It determines our reaction, or over-reaction to the fall-out.
An injured friend is the bitterest of foes. Thomas Jefferson
One would do well to remember this.
"Fate chooses your relations, you choose your friends." - Jacques Delille (1738 - 1813) French poet.
I believe this yes, but it's not that easy.
"The friendship that can cease has never been real." - Saint Jerome I can see truth in this.. or is it that sometimes friendships are just for a season..
"My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me." - Henry Ford And what is the one who brings out the worst?
"I do not wish to treat friendships daintily, but with the roughest courage. When they are real, they are not glass threads or frost-work, but the solidest thing we know." - Ralph Waldo Emerson That's right.. when they are r e a l . .
"A friend to all is a friend to none." - Aristotle I can't afford to waste myself on unauthentic relationships. I cannot put effort into a relationship that is not of value. I have too many real, important relationships to care for.
Sometimes you have to weigh a relationship on it's merits. If it brings more drama & stress to your life than it is worth then maybe it's time to let it go. It's a hard decision to make and can be painful but we are supposed to choose our friends carefully. Fate decides who comes into our lives but it is up to us who we hold on to. I'm letting go.